Self-centred posting

Recently had to deal with people who think the whole world (rolls eyes) revolves around them....they have problems/issues & EVERYONE has to accommodate what they feel, what they want, the date & timings of things/events etc.

So imagine the shock (& despair & injustice they feel) when I put my foot down to say "No. I am exercising my right NOT to agree with what you want me to do."

These people then think "Wow! Why can't you think of me, what I feel, how I feel, what I want?"........I think they should actually be asking themselves "Wow! What am I asking her to do?", "Does what I ask her to do hurt anyone she loves?", "Should I even be asking her to do this?", "Why am I asking her to do this when this is not about me but about someone else?"

Hmmm.....asking the right questions is important I guess & given the propensity of the people I know, all these questions will never arise in their minds in a million years *wry smile*

Why do I think this way? I an no expert so this is just my personal take.....Me thinks that it's because the mind of a self absorbed person is such that no one else matters & every event should be accommodated, felt & resolved according to what he/she wants.

I find such persons interesting (sad nonetheless but interesting) cos I bet my last dollar they don't know themselves any better in terms of wants & needs yet somehow, someone else always has to accommodate them.

Hey! I am definitely no angel myself & I am not saying that I am not self-absorbed person as well...it's a constant fight for me as well. But I think having kids has been a wake up call & constant reminder for me that others (like my children) matters more than me in the many decisions I have to make every day cos every decision I make affects them (sometimes in small & sometimes in really big ways).....Constant struggle to battle this enemy within.

http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-You-Are-Self-Absorbed has a mini test to see if you fight this enemy as well

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