Perceptions......

Always believed that Perceptions can be change many views...often from what actually happened to you think happened. Some examples to get the message along....

(1) At work, there was this chap that was perceived by many leaders as a rebel, someone who didn't follow the rules, didn't conform cos he always questioned the normal way of doing things.....in other words, he reminded me of me :) I was informed that I need to be wary of him & not expect much from him cos he's just a trouble-maker....I remembered myself & decided to give him a chance & now he's one of the shining stars....

(2) At home, just had a minor crisis involving my gm & the maid....maid's been trying her best to take care of her by cooking her healthy food....old lady thinks she's being mean cos she doesn't want to cook her what she wants....had to resolve the mini war that came out of that perception.....

(3) someone close to me believed that I was out to get her & her $. That meant that everything I did & didn't do was perceived as furthering that perception e.g. if I visited her, that's because I wanted to get closer to her & if I didn't visit, I was being difficult & didn't appreciate her for her being there for me. She thought of me being hard-up when I pursued my hobby & gained some experience selling them. I didn't know all of that until much later & boy was I disappointed at all that fuss for $. Gives a new perception to the whole new reason why $ isn't all it's cut out to be. It actually gave me a whole new way of viewing the commodity - 

• definitely not one that can't be brought to where one goes after life
• not one that helps mend bridges
• complicates when it becomes the focus of relationships

Growing Up....

Today I had to take a "grow up" lesson....frankly what I do is really the bad guy job most of the times......other names are the gatekeeper/ stumbling block/ red tape/ enforcer.....but today I had to exercise a MAJOR decision that brought me to the full realisation on what "doing my job" really means.

To a certain extent, making the call today was really frightening & fearful for me as the consequences are wide-ranging in many respects "business -wise" & the mother of all decisions in many respects :P

Thankully had a chat with the big guy & he assured me of his support. He even said he didn't pay me to be the "yes" man! *hurray* I guess......This assurance certainly makes the decision I had to make tonnes easier to bear.

Read this MSN article (timing is perfect I must say - wondering if is there some unforeseen hand giving me some tips....hmmmm) on "How to make the bad image work for you"

p.s. if you are wondering why I picked the poisonous frog as my picture for this entry....well, that's how I felt today when I made the decision.....

Stay at Hong Kong- The Mira & Charlie Brown

Stayed at this beautiful hotel in Kowloon Hong Kong called "The Mira Hong Kong".
The room at The Mira was beautiful - green & white being the principal colours. The place is heaven for gadget freaks like me cos free Wi-fi (wireless computer included with LCD TV being the screen) & automated shower screens etc.....that means you cannot be eye-sight challenged if you want to stay here as mood lighting is the name of the game :)

Took a Citybus from the airport (quite cheap HKD33 (ard SGD6) compared to HKD100+ for airport transfer.

Besides that, the place is wonderfully located near Tsim Sha Tsui MTR Station (Exit B) where the shops are open till midnight (I don't see that anywhere else in Hong Kong the whole time I was there). Love the little shops along the streets. Found a lovely cafe called "Charlie Brown" with all the furniture and fittings & figurines of the famous Snoopy, Lucy, Tweety & of course, good ol' Charlie Brown. Some pictures where even the waffles & cakes are also shaped accordingly.

Today....

Today started off pretty uneventful - I didn't plan to do much in fact as ran out of ideas on what to do for my free time *hahaha* (that's what happens when one has been working non-stop for the longest time :P)


Anyways, decided will go down for a yoga session in the morning & managed to grab a little massage on the massage chair at the yoga place before that. Met hub for lunch at a nice quaint La Mien cum Xiao Long Bao place (Hua Yi) at International Building - the Xiao Long Bao there is even better than Crystal Jade one with the only other restaurant beating it for the Xiao Long Bao is the Din Tai Fung outlets.


Grabbed a nice cold drink at the new TCC at 1st floor International Building - nice place to chill for a hot day as you can see the Orchard Road human traffice from that place. The service was good & the decor of that place was interesting (not like the other TCC outlets).


Guess what?! At that time we were at TCC, the weather changed from bright & sunny to dark & cloudy....that's weather in Singapore for you....


Was on the way out when the boss of our fav foot reflex place (Footworks) told us that my fav foot reflex guy is available for a foot rub....Woo Hoo!!! That ended a perfect day for me!

Kid's 1st dental surgery

Kid's 1st dental surgery occurred yesterday - pretty freaked as he had complained about having pain on his teeth one night and ended up with a swollen cheek the next morning (twice the size of his other cheek). Had made some panicky calls to the national dental clinic to schedule a check-up. Found out that the swelling was due to a decayed molar on his right cheek. *Sigh* largely due to bad oral hygiene. Felt like I failed as mom when I heard that from the doctor. That check-up was done on Wed & the surgery was scheduled on Thurs at 730 in the morning.

My baby had to be knocked out to get the offending tooth out. Pained me real bad as I had to hold his hand while he was being given the gas. Was told that the procedure to take out the offending tooth would take some time but he was done within half hour (very long half hour) - largely cos he yanked out the tube that was put down his throat to help him breathe.

He yelled at the top of his voice when he woke up from his stupor after the op. Kicked a huge fuss at the waiting area for about 1.5 hrs. Most traumatic experience & won't want to do it ever again if I can help it (crossing my fingers as he's got another offending molar on the other side).

Walk in the Park

Some pics I took while walking in the park -i.e. Henderson Waves & Hortpark. The walk's a great way to spend some time with your loved one or bring along a friend to see somewhere one doesn't often see in Singapore.

Link to NParks website on park connector

2 cents regarding recent financial turmoil

After seeing the latest bloodbath unfold in the financial side, I realized that investment is largely emotional affair. When markets get jitters, those who invested for reasons like stability, security, or having that retirement fund (all long term ideas mind you) will push out all those reasons aside & act emotionally (in other words, irrationally to a certain extent).

Here's my 2 cents worth on what's happening:

1. from what I have read & understood, the cpy just needs to pump in $ as it's credit rating got 2 notches down. But I am no expert in such stuff


2. even if the worst fears are true, the question is whether a bail out shld be done especially if the previous financial goals (back when you 1st got that policy) remains the same? From what I know, the local government is regarded as one of the strictest in the world when it comes to separating assets & liabilities (even when dealing with a branch of a foreign cpy like AIG). With this, I am willing to bet my last dollar that a situation will not occur where a policyholder will not get any money or get less than what he should be getting out of the policy. But then again, I am no expert.....


3. others have also said that given the unstable nature of current world economy, there's no certainty which other company is safe. From what I know, such mkt adjustments is shown over & over again in history & that old history lady has shown that there is always hope as such circumstances will not go on & on forever....


4. coffee shop talk sometimes totally baffles me esp people who encourage/put fear into the minds of friends, colleagues, relatives & encouage them to surrender their policies especially their ILPs. I do not doubt for a minute that their intentions are good but given the current situation, all bailouts come at a HUGE cost to the investor. If financial goals continue to remain long term & even if they feel (not know) that 'cash is king' in such times, withdrawal is not the best policy as far as I know. But then again, I am no expert.

The above are totally my personal views which have no basis in financial or any other deep stuff that comes along with such opinions.

1st ayurvedic treatment

I had the good fortune to trying out the following 2 therapies at Century 10 at Campbell Lane this morning:

1. Abhyanga: Ayurvedic Warm Oil Massage

2. Shirodhara: Ayurvedic Bliss Therapy (pic above)
   

The conclusion?

• Relaxing most absolutely definately - I have never felt so at peace in all my spa sessions. The feeling is totally out of this world! Clear headed, felt like I could face the world after that, light footed, walking on air, urge to only eat vege after that (go figure!)
  
• Oily definately - I needed a good hair wash at the hairdressers thereafter LOL
  
• Going back for more? Yes! Yes! Yes! In fact, booked for another session next week (same 2 therapies plus "Bashpa Swedana: Full Body Herbal Steam Therapy".
  

Info on various therapies offered

1st day of 1 month break

Today is the 1st day of my 1 month break from my ol job & before I start on my new place. It's great to wake up this morning not having to rush to go to work. I had the time to talk to my kids in the morning instead of rushing them to get them ready.

It's also frightening at the same time as this is the 1st time I am not working for such a long time (previously in-between job breaks were non-existent as essentially was a Fri being the last day & starting work the Monday after). But as usual, the fright is fast wearing off as I will be filling my days with yoga, exercise & pampering myself major (e.g. vacation, spas, pedi & mani, hair, tea etc) LOL.

Great Sushi place!!!

Will be regretting that I ever blogged this but here goes.....the BEST sushi place I ever got to know & my belly's grumbling every week (specifically on Tuesday as that's my swim day & pig out day all rolled into 1.

Found this hyperlink to blog that says it all..... http://yum.sg/restaurants/fish_mart_sakuraya_parkway_parade/

Yummy delicious & best sushi ever tasted....MUST TRYS:
potato salad
salmon belly
handrolls especially the seafood salad one
fresh scallop

Psst - you see Sakae on the same floor & it's at the end of that same row:)

Addition on 1 Sep 08:
add on to the list of must trys:
Tofu salad - cold appertiser but absolutely deeeelicious

Me closing a chapter

I finally closed a chapter - was asked by my staff on whether it was true that I was leaving just last week & even though it broke my heart to answer that question to that person (as we work quite closely together over the past year or so), I had to say "yes".

"What did I achieve in that year at my current position?"

That was what I asked myself when the staff went on to ask "What we going to do now once you are gone?"

I told him that he & everyone else will continue with what they do best.
I told him that the one thing I believe I have achieved is to ask "Why?" to current processes & procedures (i.e. the way we do things) & showing that there's always another way to do things (the alternative may not be the right way but there's always another way)
I have asked for changes to processes that have been in place since the start of the department including challenging the "that's the way it is done" mentality.
I have lost & won some battles but at the end of my song, it is really "I did it my way".

"What have I learnt about myself for the past year?"

This is what I asked myself when I was chatting with a close friend yesterday.

I have never thought that I could lead a team of 30 simply because my earlier departments have always been quite small.
I never knew what was my leadership style......
I have since found out that I take on the style of a forward-thinking person i.e. always anticipating change & looking at processes/ procedures that will fit future numbers at least months/years ahead & of course, challenging norms/ breaking new ground.

It has been an interesting year & the experiences will stay with me......

Happiness

Happiness is watching the kids play - knowing that the time with them will never come again...
Happiness is enjoying where we are - at that particular place & time & knowing there's no other place we are meant to be....
Happiness is being able to count my blessings e.g. ability to breathe, walk, waking up in the mornings, giving a hug to my kids & many many more blessings for each day...
Happiness is just being....

Jewel's onboard...so is Crystal

Found a lovely little bunny today....
Lovely shade of grey mixed with silver.
JEWEL's her name because she's a gem to behold.
Cute as a little bunny & cuddly like a teddy
Ryan loves the Jewel & can't wait to play with her
Natalie talks non-stop about her & can't wait to hold her
Daddy's beaming from ear to ear cos he finally has company again on his late night TV
Mommy likes rabbits which are cute & cuddly....can't wait to bring the white shaded friend home tomorrow - her name will be CRYSTAL!

Here's 1 video & pic....

Embarking on a new direction

I am in the final stages of embarking into a new direction - career-wise. To a certain extent, am quite sad as I have built nice relationships with the people I worked for & with for the past 5 over years but the new place simply posed too many opportunities for me to ignore.

• Going back to my roots in my new place but also many exciting challenges ahead :)
• Reporting direct to the main man in my new place & so far, I enjoy the communication process as it's been quite open (European style I think suits me much better than American style to a certain extent).
  
• Speed of things definitely faster in my new environment but it suits me fine.
  
• Volume is not the name of the game but rather quality of work counts - which also suits me fine.
• My current place has its daily challenges e.g. TAT, management which will not be seen at my new place. Judging from the information given during the meetings, I will be looking at fewer cases but more challenging tie-ups which is both exciting & scary at the same time :)
  

My current place has emotional ties with me & of course, the familiarity of knowing how things work does help but my gut is telling me it'll a good move & I am going with that....

Wish me Luck!

Picked the eagle shot as it speaks of how I am feeling right now :)

my heart's broken....

was not sure how to blog this cos I know I am not the sentimental type .... at least not as far as it comes to pets but I must say that my heart's broken when the pet rabbit that I got for the kids died last Sunday (exactly 2 weeks after we got it from the pet shop).....I've had my fair share of pets & mind you, I really cried when my cat, Boxy passed away some years ago (due to old age).... but what surprised me for Toffee was that this little girl was only with us for a mere 2 weeks before she died (unfortunately gasping for air at the end after having some stomach problems for the afternoon)....sigh...didn't even have time to take a nice photo of Toffee *my US lop-earred rabbit*

25 Aug 08: Update - managed to find a video which shows Toffee (unfortuantely greedy state) :)

Primary 1 registration

This week has been a harrowing experience as it's Pri 1 registration week for Singapore (I am in phase 2B as religion is considered a priority to enter into certain schools). Initially did the registration at a school nearby my place after waiting some 2 hrs in line (christian boys). Unfortunately, the wait was in vain as was informed the next day that the number of applications in that school far exceeded the spaces allocated & hub & i only had another chance to register at another christian boy school in the same phase. After a couple of phone calls & a few hours of waiting at another christian boys school, we finally managed to firm up the registration.

Was asked by some friends why the need to register into a christian boys school when there's a very famous school (non christian) just down the road. For me, it was more about a feeling to a certain extent & heritage in another way as hub & i were both educated in christian schools which were single gender (up until college).

I can't explain why but I hold the hope that if my child is educated in a reasonably well christian school, human values (rather than simply academia) is integrated as part of the child's make-up. In the end, for me, at the end of the day, I would rather my child be able to survive in the world hopefully with values that will stay with him for his lifetime & be a positive & contributing person (as opposed to just a brainy kid with limited values) that will help him/her survive the many many years after school.

True Friends

True Friends- Unknown

Happy Week Ahead!

Maldives....a paradise on earth

What I absolutely love about this vacation:

nature & time with my hub & my book reading ....

Now for the all-time list:

1. The glorious lovely all day sun....
   
2. the never ending sea tides & powdery white sand....
   
3. the wonderful fishes that swim around you as if you are part of them in the ocean....
   
4. the lovely wonderfully shaped sea shells that only nature can produce. managed to get a nice variety that kids will be delighted with...
   
5. the beautiful beach with endless sea that goes on for as far as the eye can see....
   
6. the warm soft rain in the afternoons....
   
7. the time with hubby cos it's been a long time since we had time spent together just being with each other without the phone or Internet..... just enjoying each other's company....
   
8. the fact that you can see the clear water & white sand below even if you are standing in water up above your head.......
   
9. the fishes that resembles promfrets that swim in schools so near to the shore (around ankle deep water).....
   
10. beautiful pockets of coral that still teems with fish even if it is the only one standing in the vast area......
    
11. the pair of yellow finned fish that swam next to hub & me for most of the scuba diving experience. schools after schools of fish.....
    
12. dinner by the moon light with prawns so fresh & a platter of meat cooked to perfection.....
    
13. hubby's gift of song from "Don Williams - You're my best friend" with words that made me cry & love my hub all the more....the lyrics are: 

You placed gold on my finger

You brought love life I've never known 

You gave life to our children

And to me, a reason to go on. 

You're my bread when I'm hungry

You're my shelter from troubled winds

You're my anchor in life's ocean 

But most of all, you're my best friend 

When I need hope and inspiration

You're always strong when I'm tired and weak

I could search this whole world over

You'd still be everything that I need. 

Last but not least, I actually managed to read 2 books -"Eat, Pray, Love" (about a woman who travelled to Italy. India & Bali in search of what is true for her - what better to read a trip book when one is on a trip :)) & "The Saint, the Surfer & the CEO" by Robin Sharma (a self-realization book of what life's purpose & how to live fulfilling lives.n many ways, both books remind me about another fav book, "Conversations with God" by Neale Donald Walsh

Messages to remind me of the wonderful book adventures taken for this trip.....

• "When the student is ready, the teacher appears." 
• "Human reaction either stems from love or fear - nothing else" 
• "Joy, truth & love shows us which messages are divine messages" 
• "Our journeys are always what benefits others as service for other are our common goals" 
• "Each of us are perfect in ourselves. "
• "We are unhapy the farther we are not living out our destiny. We innately know as we are all in the process of self discovery more like remembering what we are. We are not learning anything new as what we know lies deep in our hearts."
  

"The Monk who sold his Ferrari" by Robin Sharma

Read this book recently - must say that it was the title that 1st got hub's attention. Surprisingly he bought the book (usually he's not into the self-help books - that's more my thing :)) & recommended me reading it.....as usual, was juggling reading about 4 books at that time so didn't manage to get down to this book till some time later. 

The book's easy reading cos got storyline infused into the "teachings" - a bit zen-like but not too overpowering. The ideas are quite interesting although being a self-help book junkie, the teachings have been taught earlier in other books like "One Minute Millionaire", various books by Og Mandino & Neale Donald Walsh.....

Quite a nice read with easy to recall concepts.....some reviewers have stated that the book has life changing concepts...from what i see on its impact on hub, i would say it has made him & me more aware of what influences or has an impact on deeds & words......

Siloso Beach Getaway

Just had a nice getaway at Siloso Beach Sentosa (kids holiday cos too busy at work to take  leave) - definitely one of my fav places in S'pore....loved the breakfast served (what can beat fresh croissants baked in front of you & nice chilled fruits kept in the fridge?)....saw "Songs of the Sea" & found that it quite entertaining... topped off with a nice beautiful sunset...what more can I ask for a mini-vac?